LEARN TO DATE YOURSELF: Today, tomorrow and forever

A love letter those without a significant other,


Happy Valentine’s week to the most beautiful, kind, honest, hardworking, loyal and amazing person that I have the privilege to be writing to. I am so incredibly happy that this letter has found its way to you.


It is always around this time of year that the theme of love is prevalent in so many of our lives. We have to endure cheesy commercials on T.V., scroll past local "date night" suggestions on social media and when we go to the grocery store - all we see are "Be Mine" balloons floating around.


With that being said, I thought this would be a perfect time to tell you to just let go of your expectations and disappointments. Let go of not having a significant other. Let go of feeling lonely and disheartened.


Let. It. Go.


I hope that this year you learn to wholeheartedly love and date yourself. I know Valentine’s Day can be a holiday many of us feel ugh, meh and bleh about. We casually roll our eyes at how “superficial” that one day on the calendar is; yet I think that it gives us the chance to invest in nurturing ourselves.


The past year has been a challenging one for so many due to COVID deeply affecting our friendships and relationships; and that is why I believe it is important to dedicate time to spoiling and loving ourselves because at the end of the day, if you wouldn’t date you, who would?


If you are like me and are single this upcoming holiday (and even if you are not) I urge you to discover what your own love language is and find a way that you can sincerely give it to yourself. For me, I crave physical touch and words of affirmation; so this week I have booked myself a massage and I decided to write myself a love letter. Yeah, the gushy, mushy, tear jerking kinda letter and a full 90 minute Swedish massage...I just might even buy myself flowers because why the hell not?

It is so simple to get stuck in a rut of feeling sorry for yourself and getting sucked into a feeling of lack; but it is also just as simple to choose just how incredible it is to truly invest, be grateful and admire the person that you are.


Why do we wait on another person to make us happy? That is putting a lot of power and energy into the hands of another human being when you know exactly what it takes to make you feel fulfilled, appreciated, loved and concrete in your life.


You are strong, you are resilient, you are worthy, you are respected and you are so fucking adored.


My ask for you today, tomorrow, all week and all year long is to date yourself. Give to yourself as though you were dating a person who you are absolutely head over heels for. Write yourself love letters, buy yourself 'just because' flowers, book yourself a spa day, treat yourself to your favorite take-out, wear the expensive perfume because it makes you feel sexy or simply use your good jewelry, glassware and dinner plates just because it brings you happiness. Just do whatever fills and then, overflows your cup. Do what makes you feels so incredibly special, because guess what? You are.

Remember, Valentine’s Day is simply one day out of a year; but you are 365 days, 7 days a week, 24 hours a day. This life can either be you against you or it can be you loving you.


So, to those reading this - thank you.


Thank you for doing something today that I hope inspires you to commit to the most long-term, happy, healthy, mutual, cringeworthy, loving and #couplegoals relationship with yourself.


With an immense amount of love and gratitude,


Cheers! xo

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